One:Retreat is a guided weekend away in North Devon, a guided day in London, or (new for 2021!) an online course, with the one you love. Think of us as an MOT for your relationship. One that will help you last the distance together. With scrumptious food, great company and beautiful surroundings thrown in (although we can’t claim the scrumptious food element for your own lounge; with the online version; we can definitely recommend that it will enhance the experience!) .
A retreat is exactly what it sounds like — the chance to step aside from life for a while, to rest and just ‘be’, together with your partner, in a welcoming, peaceful place. We recommend that if you choose the online course, that you create a retreat space within your own home to give it the sense of a special occasion. Use twinkly lights/cushions/scented candles/whatever it takes to change it up from how it normally looks during the day. Crack open your favourite beverage and prepare some delicious snacks as you settle down for a night… with us (and your partner of course)!
Thanks to the global pandemic we had to look at how we were going to see our couples and continue our important work. After some discussion, it quickly became apparent that everything we do is really transferable to an online format as a live webinar. Just a few tweaks here and there and, bobs your uncle, we have done it!
We hope this means that:
for those who are shielding
for those who like anonymity
for those who get car sick
for those who just love the comfort of their own home
for those on a tighter budget
for those who are super-shy
This format could be a winner. We hope to keep offering this as an option going forward. For more details on how this will work please go to the ‘online’ page.
On the stunning coast of North Devon, we overlook the Atlantic Ocean, in a gorgeous Jacobean-style Manor house. We’re proud to say that Pickwell Manor seems to be loved by all who come to stay; for its sense of warmth, its welcome and its stunning views over ancient rolling fields and huge, plunging headlands.
We create fun, friendly weekends away for couples that value their relationship and want to make it the best it can be. We offer a mix of guided conversations (just between yourselves) and great food, as well as private time to explore the area, breathe in the fresh air and rest. Oh, and experts on hand throughout the weekend, to help with different aspects of your relationship if needed.
Very sadly, at the moment, we are pausing our London retreats until we find a way to operate safely. We will update on here and in our newsletter as soon as we know we are coming back. Please email firstname.lastname@example.org if you’d like to be added to the newsletter to hear first.
The day is spent in a fabulous loft-like yet cosy space in a much sought-after area of London with good food and a selection of drinks on tap all day long. Nearby there is a ridiculous amount of choice for places to eat, or find entertainment for your date night afterwards. From the new Lowline Development, or Flat Iron Square , to the Tate Modern Gallery and the world renowned Borough Market.
In both the day and the weekend settings, it’s only natural that you might be nervous when you first arrive. Don’t worry, we’ll look after you, and in these safe and beautiful spaces, we hope that you and your partner will recharge, reconnect and leave us feeling renewed in yourselves and in one another.
The activities on our weekend away are varied and can involve your mind, body and soul. It is up to you to pre-book from a range of options that we will provide for you. It could be sea or land based; inside or out; it could push you to your limit or you could choose to play it safe. Our only advice is to surprise yourself and choose something that you wouldn’t normally do. Embrace the adventure!
Your apartment is set up with a bedroom, a lounge and a well-stocked self-catered kitchen. You can bring all the food and drink you desire for your stay. On Saturday though, we will be running your day with lots of things to discuss, as well as providing you with scrumptious food for the time you are with us. This will include, cakes, drinks, lunch and later… cocktails! We are delighted to be working with the lovely Tracey Elliott. Tracey has much experience in cooking for groups of all shapes and sizes and takes great delight in sourcing as much as she can locally through known producers, growers and suppliers. Tracey makes everything from scratch and the reviews from all our retreats are raving!
From the moment you arrive on The Day, everything you need by way of sustenance is all taken care of. From the luxurious coffee machine with its full range of options, through to the delights of a fresh ‘Benugo cafe’ lunch. Benugo too, boast of their locally sourced credentials and take great pride in the quality of food that they produce.
You will be guided through each aspect of the day but all your conversations will be in private, just between the two of you.
The evening is yours to enjoy. Think ahead and book in a place for dinner that you may never have been to before. You could always push the boat out and book to stay overnight somewhere special too.
Our Weekend starts on a Friday afternoon anytime from 5pm, for two days, until Sunday at 1pm. It runs twice a year for Part 1 of the course and once annually for Part 2 currently, and we can host up to eight couples at a time. Exact dates can be found on our Book Now page.
The Day currently runs just a few times a year, mostly on a Saturday. We start at 10.00am and finish at 5pm. Exact dates can be found on our Book Now page, Although sadly we are currently on hold for London.
If you have any questions at all about your retreat, please don’t hesitate to get in touch.
It’s for any couple that wants to be in it for the long haul. So no matter where you’ve been, where you’re at or where you’re going – you’re very welcome.
Whether you have been together for 6 months or 66 years – you are welcome.
If you have struggled with being locked down with your partner and are asking yourself ‘is this it?’ Then now is the time to check-in with us.
If you love your partner and you have a genuine desire to make your relationship work – this is for you.
If sometimes you wobble, and find your relationship tricky – this is a great place to reconnect.
When work/kids/life becomes all-consuming; and it has been a while since you felt the excitement of coming home to your partner; then, what are you waiting for? This is the ideal chance to take time out and remind yourself, and your partner, that you matter to each other.
If you are living together; engaged; married; living apart but committed; you are all welcome.
Our focus at One:Retreat is on the good stuff that you already have and enjoy, rather than unpacking the hurtful stuff that might have come between you. We hope it will be one of the most rewarding – and fun – things you do together all year.
Our days, weekends and online course, offer an informal, relaxed opportunity to take a fresh look at what you have together. It’s also about giving you the right tools to navigate yourselves through tougher times, if and when they come (as they do for most of us at some point in a long relationship).
If you have children, then this is the time to leave them at home, or get a babysitter in. This is your time: just for the two of you. It can be hard to leave them, but trust us, it’ll be worth it for all of you. It will be much easier to focus on each other without little ones (or not so little ones) clamouring for your attention while you are trying to focus on one another.
Our experts are each trained in different areas to bring out the best in each of you. They have worked with individuals, couples or groups for many years and will be equipped with a wealth of stories and experience.
But the weekend, the online or the day course is about you, your partner and what you both have to say – to each other. All your conversations will be conducted in private, whatever option you choose to take the course in.
We would recommend a ‘digital detox’ while you’re with us. ‘Phubbing’ is an actual thing and trust us, it definitely won’t go down well if one of you is doing it.
If you have children back at home and you’re away with us, then you’ll (obviously) need to keep in touch, but we will encourage you to try to be ‘present’ and put screens away as much as possible.
If you have any questions at all about your retreat, or the course, please don’t hesitate to get in touch.
We are a team of people who are passionate about helping each relationship be the best that it can be. We’re all far from perfect ourselves of course, which is how we know everyone needs a hand from time to time.
(Do get in touch if you have any questions you would like to ask us about the retreat).
After giving up a nursing career spanning 14 years, and moving to Devon, Susannah is now the director of a holiday business; a shareholder in both a renewable energy company and a social housing company and is a founder and trustee of The Pickwell Foundation.
She likes to keep her hand in with the nursing side, so works as a community first responder for the South West Ambulance Service Trust.
The question of ‘what makes relationships great?’, together with a real curiosity of how people stay together for a life-time, has always caused her much fascination. On a search to discover some answers for herself, One:Retreat was born.
Ruth is a trainer and communications coach who loves to help inspire people to ‘unlock possibilities’. Whether in a boardroom with CEOs or a classroom full of the most challenging pupils, her passion is to ‘inspire, communicate and unlock freedom and possibility’, helping individuals, couples, families and teams to understand their unique personalities and communication styles to better relate with others.
Ruth has 20 years of experience in creating and delivering bespoke courses to businesses, schools and charities in the UK and abroad.
She is international trainer for with The Path, Path Elements Profile and Path4Teens programmes and is an Enterprise Mentor Trainer for SFEDI. She is an associate of Family Futures, an area coordinator for Adoption UK and a director of Achkiy, a charity working with women in the shanty towns in Peru.
She is married to Alan, has three birth children who live in Barcelona, New York and Berlin, two ‘forever daughters’ and six grandchildren. She enjoys travelling regularly, cycling, walking, Pilates, theatre and having fun.
Husband, father, teacher, coach & philanthropist. Richard is a director of Pickwell Manor Ltd and a founder of the Pickwell Foundation – a grant making charitable trust focusing on displaced people and climate change. He has a Diploma in Business, Executive & Life Coaching and a background in Post 16 Education in which he taught and managed Social Science subjects. He has a particular interest in how values shape individuals, relationships, families and organisations.
A really thoughtfully put together weekend for couples… helped us to get some space together, re-evaluate and spend time looking at what’s important to us…
It’s difficult to express how very special, lovely and important this weekend has been. Thanks to the kindness, generosity and friendship from the One:Retreat team at Pickwell Manor. Although pics make it look like all we did is eat and drink, last few days have been packed full with discussion, adventure challenge with Active Escape, relaxation and expert coaching about or personalities, values and relationships. Truly recommend it #oneretreat
Great weekend away on a marriage retreat which included hiking, good food and taking time to reflect together… a highlight was paddling out through the waves to a secret cove together and starting a fire on the beach to stay warm! #oneretreatdevon
“We came out feeling positive, close and somehow more committed to the idea of us as a couple. I’d go so far as to say we left on a tangible high”
At the end of the day comes the only moment we are asked “What’s the main thing you have learnt today?” To my surprise, Mark is the first to raise his hand “for us it’s the importance of planning, balance, and devoting more time to our family” he tells the room. It strikes me how incredible it is that he feels happy to share these fairly intimate discoveries with people we’ve just met – a far cry from the tense, unsure husband I traveled here with. Perhaps thats the magic of what Baker, Elliott and Adams are doing here.
Some couples find it toe-curlingly embarrassing to discuss issues like this at first, but they soon get used to it.”There are some areas I find difficult to talk about, but I knew it was important to be there….we needed a solution – and now we both think about what makes the other person happy”
I loved the relaxed atmosphere, the zero cringe factor and how well the day was facilitated
I really appreciated the chance the talk about us, beyond the tasks of the week
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